Every year we have a retreat for Middle School Guys and their dads. This event is named Man-Up and the focus is on biblical manhood. I believe this topic is increasingly relevant and necessary for our young men. Each year, when approaching this topic, we have to ask “When does a boy become a man?”

The islanders in Vanuatu construct tall wooden towers, up to 100 feet tall. The tower has long vines hanging from different heights. As a part of a ritual, men will jump from this tower. This act of land diving serves as a passage into manhood for the boys on the island. Boys as young as five years old begin tying vines to their ankles and hurl themselves head first towards the ground. The further up the boys jump, the more masculine they are considered. This ritual shows strength, bravery, and faith—all qualities that the people value in their men. Through this ritual, the islanders are able to determine when a boy becomes a man—but what about for us?

There is a trend amongst young men in the United States referred to as “delayed adolescence” or “emerging adulthood”—the former being used as the primary, and arguably more accurate, term. This reference is to name the whole generation of young adult men who are extending their period of freedom and self-pursuits for years beyond what has been traditionally typical. An example of this is that currently, 58% of men in their 20s are married, while thirty years ago that percentage was 85%. Adult aged males, are living more like boys than men, pursuing video games and part-time jobs over careers and families. Our current culture has many potential men struggling to find meaningful purpose.

Christ-followers should seek to raise our boys into men who are successfully pursuing biblical purpose. A Christian man should be defined by his pursuit in following Christ, his sacrificial love for others, and his desire to work.

1. Pursuing Christ: While this applies to all of mankind, it still carries high importance that, if men are to be the spiritual leader of their homes, that they are an active believer, pursuing Christ as they lead others to Christ. Matthew 22 states our greatest commandments, and as a creature made in God’s image, man cannot fully fulfill his purpose outside of following God. If we want the Church to raise godly men, it is necessary that they are guided in pursuing God.
2. Sacrificial Love: Everyone loves a story where the hero risks everything for someone else; and we often want to be that hero! The concept of sacrificial love was exemplified in the love that Christ demonstrated on the cross and is then to be emulated by his followers. If a man is living for himself above all, he is missing his purpose. Men are blessed to be given the roles and titles of husband, father, brother, son, etc... Each of those roles presents an opportunity for a man to love someone more than himself, and in doing so, show a Christ-like love to others. Boys must be shown what this looks like by watching the other godly men in their lives.
3. Work: Men were instructed to work from the very beginning, in the Garden of Eden. People are to work for the purpose of a myriad of things being accomplished. It is important that a work ethic is instilled in boys for them to see the value as men. While it may be easier to pick up a boy’s clothes, eventually there comes a point where a young man needs to know where clean clothes come from! Work is not a punishment but a necessity of life and it is important to help boys understand the importance of work and its role in a balanced life. Also, perhaps in a more important light, we are called to work for God. The purpose that many of the young men in America are missing can be found in a life that glorifies God through the work he has set for us to do! Churches are hungry for young men to invest their time and talents into the Kingdom. The goal is not a generation of workaholics—but rather a mindset that recognizes that work is a good thing for providing needs and for glorifying God.

The issue of delayed adolescence within young Christians is not solved through complaining about millennials--or through a three-point list within an 835-word blog. A boy does not become a man when he reaches a certain age, achieves a particular accolade, or reaches a certain life stage.  A boy becomes a man when they begin to live for God and others, in a way that fulfills their God-given purpose. If we want godly men, we need to invest in the young men around us through instruction, guidance, and being an example. I encourage you to invest in our young men with your prayers, your example, and your time.

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/14/vanuatu-land-diving-pentecost-island_n_5672997.html

https://www.npr.org/templates/transcript/transcript.php?storyId=18482794

The Deacon Ministry 

A hospital stay is usually the last thing on your mind.  We normally go about life not thinking of the “what ifs.”  We believe we will live to be 100 and always live in good health.  To show this, a survey from AARP states that 60% of American adults do not have a will or living trust.  We are not to worry about tomorrow, but having basic plans in place is not a bad idea.  One of the simplest plans to make is identifying who will watch out for me in the short term. What happens if I need to be in the hospital for a week?  Identifying a helpful friend will make it easier for everyone who wishes to help.  They can set up meals, restrict or encourage visits, and they can give out the latest information that is correct.  You would be surprised how many incorrect reports you can get in less than an hour about the same situation. 

To help in this vital ministry of our church we have the deacon ministry.  The deacons are not here to be everyone’s point person, but rather help the patient establish who they want to be the point person.  The deacon ministry of First Baptist currently consists of sixteen men who have been nominated by the people, approved by the church leadership, and met the qualifications for the office of deacon described in 1 Timothy 3.  As servants of the church, we have assigned each Sunday School class a deacon.  Most of the men have introduced themselves to their class in the last few weeks.  To best meet the needs of our church, we will be encouraging all of our adults to join a Sunday School class both for edification and the opportunity to have a deacon.  However, for those who do not have a class, we will be introducing ourselves individually during the welcome time near the pews in which the deacon sits.  Should you find yourself in need of a deacon or you do not know your deacon, please call the church office, and we will let you know who your deacon is or assign one to you.   

In addition to adding more deacons, we are also trying to do a better job with communication.  There have been many times where we have had people in the hospital, and we did not know of their stay until after the person was released.  To best meet this need, we will have a Hospital Visitation Ministry form available in all adult Sunday School classes.  These forms will also be online for you to fill out.  On this form we ask you to identify your Sunday School teacher, your name, membership status, and contact information.  The second tier of information helps us know when and where you have a hospital stay.  There have been times we knew you were having surgery, but we did not know where or what day.  The third tier gives us permission to come visit and what information you want told to the church.   

The deacons have been training on making brief hospital visits and learning how to best serve you.  Our visits are usually short concluding with prayer.  There are times we can stay with the family during a difficult surgery, but we desire not to overstay.   

Most of the time we do not have our hospital stays planned.  If you find yourself in the hospital and wish to have a visit, please ask the nurse to contact the Chaplin.  The Chaplin will call us for you.   

In the past, we have relied on Sunday School prayer lists.  These are good for your class and your deacon would like a copy; however, we are asking you to take this additional step on paper so we can know how you wish to be served.  Even if you do not wish for us to come, you can still have us pray for you and/or put you on the prayer list on Wednesday night.   

So the $1,000,000 question is what does a deacon do.  We are here to lift others up.  The deacons serve as servants to those desiring a hospital visit, they are helpers to our widows and orphans in conjunction with the GROW ministry team, we help with the Lord’s Supper and baptism, and in some cases we will help connect people needing assistance.  We are not the governing body of the church. 

I hope that as we serve you and your family you will now have a better understanding of the deacons and our work to ensure that the ministry of prayer and preaching can be the most effective.