In our society today, we are constantly reminded that we need to make sure we are being politically correct whenever we speak. In theory, that sounds very reasonable; however, when you take God out of things even the most innocent statement can be regarded as a politically incorrect statement.
Proverbs 12:18 – “The words of the reckless (thoughtless) pierce like swords but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
Proverbs 18:21 – “The tongue has the power of life and death…”
Proverbs 12:25 – “Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.”
Proverbs 10:11 – “The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life.”
I would go out on a limb here and say that God is being very specific in letting us know our words can have the ability to be either powerfully destructive or they can bring new life and hope to those who are lost and hurting.
Now I know that we have all said hurtful things to others—words that once they left our lips, we wished we could pull back in our mouths. We have also had hurtful things said to us. How do we keep a guard on our lips so that those times are very few and far between? God has also given us some clear instructions in His Word about how to accomplish that.
Proverbs 15:28 – “A good man thinks before he speaks; the evil man pours out his hurtful Words.”
We should ALWAYS take a moment in EVERY situation to pray and ask God to give us words that will be pleasing to Him—words that will draw others to Him, not push them away. We need to never let our pride or emotions take control of our words. When we do, harsh and hurtful words will come spilling from our lips as we try to prove we are right or defend ourselves. Oh, that I would have learned that lesson early in our marriage when in the middle of a “discussion,” the words that would fly out of my mouth were anything but pleasing to God and were hurtful to my husband. Then too late, I would feel so ashamed about how I had spoken to my husband—the man I love more than anything on this earth. But, our God in His mercy and patience has never given up on me and continues to teach me every day how important my words are.
In order for us to have words that are controlled by God, WE MUST HAVE LIVES THAT ARE CONTROLLED BY GOD. Let’s look at a couple more scriptures that teach us how to give God control of our lives and words. First and foremost, we must make sure what we put into our minds will always align our thoughts/words with God’s standards and not those of society.
Philippians 4:8-9 – “Finally brothers and sisters, whatever is TRUE (lines up with God’s truth), whatever is NOBLE (honorable), whatever is RIGHT (not in the worlds eyes, but right according to God’s Word), whatever is PURE (free of contamination – worldly views, sin), whatever is LOVELY (innocent, humble, pure), whatever is ADMIRABLE (deserving respect, high esteem), if anything is EXCELLENT or PRAISEWORTHY (having worth, merit or value in God’s eyes) – think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me – put into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.”
Second, we must make sure our words always allow others
Colossians 3: 12-14, 17 – “Therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness
I Thessalonians 5:11 – “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as you are doing.”
Wouldn’t it be an awesome testimony to our God if the way others spoke was motivated by the way they heard Christians speaking to others?
God—let it begin with me. May this be my daily prayer: “Let the words of my mouth (EVERYTHING I SAY) and the meditation of my heart (EVERYTHING I THINK) be pleasing in your sight, my Rock and my Redeemer” Psalms 19:14.